I've been at this company 8 months and just got promoted. I'm 12 weeks and feel guilty about the timing. Any advice?
You have nothing to feel guilty about — this is your legal right and your life. Practical advice: tell your manager before you tell wider colleagues. Choose a private setting (in-person or video call, not Slack/email). Be matter-of-fact: 'I wanted to let you know I'm 12 weeks pregnant. I'm planning to continue working through [date] and will have 26 weeks of maternity leave. I'd like to start discussing a transition plan when you're ready.' Coming with a plan signals professionalism and reduces their anxiety. Most managers, once past initial surprise, are supportive.
I felt the exact same guilt after a recent promotion and I'm so glad I told my manager at 13 weeks. Her response was 'Congratulations! Let's figure out a plan together.' We had 6 months to prepare and the transition was smooth. Companies survive maternity leave — this is a temporary absence, not a betrayal. You earned that promotion and you deserve to have a family.
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